"'I love myself. The quietest, simplest, most powerful revolution ever." - Nayyirah Waheed
It never stops being exciting for me to announce that applications are open for the next collective of Of Sistren Supper Club. This third cohort will begin meeting on the second Saturday of each month - March 11, 2023. If you're looking for an empowering and enlivening space, this meetup for women with conversation, fellowship, peer mentoring and support is for you. Participants will join the chill supper club for four months, getting together virtually one Saturday monthly.
Applications are open through Feb. 17, 2023 at 11:59 p.m.
Of Sistren will be by invitation only, but the intent is not to exclude anyone as much as it is meant to allow the space and time for solid conversation and listening between dreamers and doers. If you're not chosen to join for a specific quarter, never fear, your application will be considered for a subsequent session.
Are you in? If so, I'd love to hear from you.
(Fill out the application to join us on the link above.)
I'm excited to announce that applications are open through July 31, 2022 for the next collective of Of Sistren Supper Club which will begin meeting on the second Saturday of each month - Aug. 13, 2022. If you're looking for an empowering and enlivening space, this meetup for women with conversation, fellowship, peer mentoring and support is for you. Participants will join the chill supper club for four months, getting together virtually one Saturday monthly.
Of Sistren will be by invitation only, but the intent is not to exclude anyone as much as it is meant to allow the space and time for solid conversation and listening between dreamers and doers. If you're not chosen to join for a specific quarter, never fear, your application will be considered for a subsequent session.
Are you in? If so, I'd love to hear from you.
(Fill out the application to join us on the link above.)
Earlier this spring, I launched a gathering of women that had been a dream project for me. As I mentioned when I talked about how Of Sistren Supper Club came to be, I was yearning for fellowship and the power we gain from coming together. And I had a strong feeling that I was not the only one ... I was right.
The first collective of Of Sistren is still in session -- concluding in June and I cannot even begin explain the breadth of what I have gained from the conversation, the sharing, the experiences and the community that the women in this group have manifested.
So I'm excited to announce that applications are open through June 9, 2021 for the next cohort which will begin meeting on the second Saturday of each month July 9, 2021. Participants will join the relaxed supper club for four months, getting together virtually one Saturday each month.
Of Sistren will be by invitation only, but the intent is not to exclude anyone as much as it is meant to allow the space and time for solid conversation and listening between dreamers and doers. If you're not chosen to join for a specific quarter, never fear, your application will be considered for a subsequent session.
Are you in? If so, I'd love to hear from you.
(Fill out the application to join us on the link above.)
I recently sat down for a lively conversation with my sister and friend HipHop Womanist EbonyJanice for her A Year in Black Joy conversation series. We talked about joy and legacy ... about the mission that our grandparents sent us out on in life and the personal legacy work we are doing daily.
ICYMI: https://bit.ly/3atQP6r
This life-giving conversation series is to celebrate the work of @emmaslegacyfoundation.
Consider visiting bit.ly/EmmasLegacyFoundation to support the work of #EmmasLegacy which provides scholarships to #DreamYourelfFree, supports the stipends for the facilitators first DYF and the 12 month spiritual mentoring programs and makes #BlackGirlMixtape possible.
EbonyJanice Moore is a womanist scholar, author, and activist doing community-organizing work, most specifically around black women’s body ownership as a justice issue, black women’s access to ease, joy, and play, and Hip Hop as a tool for sociopolitical and spiritual/religious movement making. She has created curriculum for leadership development for high school-aged girls in Kenya and South Africa, developed programming for teenagers in housing projects in Decatur, Georgia giving them exposure to culture, STEM programs, and the arts, and she supports the tuition of several girl students at PACE High School in Nyahururu, Kenya – towards her passion to ensure gender parity in spaces considered “the least of these.”
I've been dreaming of hosting a dinner party as soon as the pandemic ends for nearly a year. In the beginning, I thought my urge was just about hosting some of my favorite people in my home for a lovely meal and lively confab. But, the longer we've been kept from gathering in our normal way, I realize it's more about the loss of fellowship and the power we gain from coming together more than anything else. And I asked myself ... do we need to be in the same place to do that? No. We don't.
So on March 13, 2021, MVL will launch Of Sistren Supper Club, a monthly virtual meetup for women with conversation, fellowship, peer mentoring and support. Participants will join the relaxed supper club for four months, getting together virtually one Saturday each month.
Of Sistren will be by invitation only, but the intent is not to exclude anyone as much as it is meant to allow the space and time for solid conversation and listening between dreamers and doers. If you're not chosen to join for a specific quarter, never fear, your application will be considered for a subsequent session.
Are you in? If so, I'd love to hear from you.
(Fill out the application to join us on the link above.)
The past few weeks feel like they've spanned six months. The killing of George Floyd, on the heels of Ahmaud Arberry and Breonna Taylor's violent deaths, has caused a firestorm in America and abroad that has been impossible to ignore or tamp down. It has been all-consuming and infused the reality of racial inequality and inequity into virtually every facet of daily life — causing us to not just pause but stop. We haven't been able to push through and get back to our normal routines, and that is where this story begins. I discovered Parker Thatch in my Pinterest feed late last year and started following them on Instagram shortly after. When the pandemic hit, I watched Irene and Marisa's daily work-from-home IG stories for a break from the monotony, and I became familiar with their collective voice. I've heard people say that you can't know someone from their social media presence; however, I felt, to some degree, like I did get to know them. And so when I came upon the company's posts a little more than a week ago about standing in solidarity with the Black community and in support of the message that Black lives matter, I left a comment asking how Parker Thatch would make a contribution to the BLM movement. But, my question alone didn't feel like enough. I wasn't there (in their comments) to agitate. Distraught about what I was seeing on the news, I was all at once feeling emboldened to ask others to not just hear but for allyship. So, I went to my computer and wrote an email asking for clarity on how they would commit. I asked them how they would come out of their comfort zone and be vulnerable for this cause. I didn't know what to expect but their response was much more than I imagined would come back. I received an email from Irene asking if we could talk by phone that afternoon. Of course, I said yes. We had a lengthy in-depth and transparent conversation about each of our personal experiences, including her own experiences with race as an Asian American, and how exactly I believed the brand could be an asset to this human rights campaign. Up until that moment, I felt as if I had been holding my breath for a week ... During our exchange, the entire weight of trying to figure out how I would go back to my relationships with people who didn't know the Black experience firsthand fell from from my shoulders. In that moment, I felt hope.
I say this feature is different because I haven't just discovered a handbag company with beautiful wares; I discovered real people making products imbued with beautiful intentions.
Our meeting just recently was like a moment of serendipity in the middle of very heavy mood and atmosphere in the country. It happened because you were willing to be vulnerable. What caused you to reach out to me for a conversation (instead of an email)?
PT: Our talk in the middle of a very heavy week was like the optimistic feeling you get when you see a flower bloom in the middle of the desert. Your question was like a bright light and I felt compelled to have a chat instead of an email. I believe leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability is how we can learn and change.
Yours is a brand that pretty clearly understands having a real connection with its customers. How, if at all, has 2020 impacted your brand ethos and further how you cultivate your engagement (relationship with your following)?
PT: 2020 has forced our brand to find a gear we were not aware we had. Our North Star is always just being us. We show up to every story exploring our fears, anxiety and sharing things that bring us joy. 2020 also forced us to reconsider both the how and the what of engagement. The pandemic forced us to figure out how to stay connected with our audience despite the fact we could not share physical space with our customers and colleagues (or even go into our office or retail space). Our home became our studio and Zoom allowed us to keep the conversation going. The national grief, rage, and call for social justice resulting from the police killing of George Floyd led us to "reconsider what we consider" as we engage with our audience. We are just beginning our journey in this regard. Our first steps are informed by the understanding that we must first take a pause to listen, learn, empathize, and expand beyond our comfort zone in terms of what we would otherwise consider relevant to our engagement work.
There is a feeling and aesthetic about Parker Thatch that is magnetic. I could describe what attracted me to it, but I’d love to hear what it is that’s inspires you to create the products as well as the company you’ve built?
PT: Matt (my husband and co-founder of PT) and I built this company around the concept of ease and elegance. Our design inspiration invariably comes from authentic styles from the past mixed with a twist of modernity. Matt always asks, "How do we move the conversation forward?" We believe our products should become a welcome companion that travels far with you as you find your way through the ups and downs of your day and your life.
What is your go-to source of inspiration?
PT: “Unstylized” photos of chic people, rooms, gardens, cars and places. There is something very inspiring of how people look when they are truly themselves.
As an ethnic minority woman, there are experiences of prejudice you have faced that make up your own personal story. And while the Black Lives Matter movement can on some level only be understood by the people who have endured the oppression that inspired the movement, how has entering the conversation of advocacy with me and others who support the Parker Thatch brand affected you?
PT: The last couple of weeks have been an emotional rollercoaster ride. Growing up as one of the only minority kids in my school I have suppressed years of racist experiences internally. The Black Lives Matter movement has inspired me to allow myself to be vulnerable and acknowledge my own unrecognized bias. The real work will be a lifetime of change and commitment to call out racism when we see it. At work we are committed to pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone in ways that will open us up to educating ourselves through stories, dialogue, and discoveries which in turn will allow us to more effectively do the work to realize the change we seek.
What mark would you like to leave on the world?
PT: Recent public and private happenings have emphasized the precious fragility and transience of our time here. It is our hope that, once we have left the stage, our efforts (manifest in our conversations and our creations) will continue to serve by inspiring those who come after us, as we were inspired by those who came before us.
What's Next:
Parker Thatch will make a donation to the NAACP Legal Defense and Education Fund, which supports three main things areas: voting rights, reform of the criminal justice system and equal access to education.
The brand will also support Black Girl Ventures, whose mission is to provide Black/Brown woman-identifying founders with access to community, education, and leadership development in order to meet business milestones that lead to economic advancement through entrepreneurship.
As well, follow PT for the launch of dedicated product to mark their support of this Movement.
How can anyone hate you just because you’re black? This is a question I’ve been asked a number of times over the past few weeks. In other times over the years when asked this, I’ve answered with low energy: I don’t know, they just CAN. The disengaged attention I gave to this matter in those moments was the result of a bit of hopelessness. I mean, for a solid 35 of my almost 46 years of life, I’ve had to endure conversations and debates about how I was just the same as the non-Black person who was trying to figure out "with me" (I wasn't trying to figure it out but begrudgingly participating in many of these conversations) why my race was problematic in their circles ... their familial circles, their religious circles, their educational circles, their civic circles, their professional circles, their intellectual circles and any circle they enjoyed that could exist peaceably in any public space. I said I didn't know. But, I do. I just always weighed the emotional and mental cost of a conversation that I was sure would not result in enough change too great and unworthy of my real intellectual and emotional capacity. Especially because if you're asking anyone Black in your life this question in passing, without your full attention and your full heart, you're not ready to hear the why or do the changing. Well, the past four days have been different.
Just like I never honestly imagined seeing a Black president of the United States, I never believed there would be a time that Black people would be able to have a meaningful and stripped down conversation about racism in this country.
I have talked to strangers, I have talked to friends ... I have even talked extensively with my boss. I'm so sorry George Floyd, Ahmaud Arberry, Addie May Collins, Carol Denise McNair, Cynthia Wesley, Carole Rosamond Robertson, Breonna Taylor, Trayvon Martin, Emmett Till, Sandra Bland, Amadou Diallo, Philando Castile, James Chaney and so, so many other Black lives had to be taken for us to arrive, again, at a fireball moment in history. I have cried. I have lost sleep and, at times, been void of words. But today, I told a colleague that I can never go back to pretending that the micro-incivility, exclusion and outright racism I have faced in what is supposed to be safe spaces — among colleagues and associates, and in public spaces — are not significant and something I can ever learn to be okay with. I can never go back to pretending I want to extend the mental stamina or interest in pressing forward with mundane tasks and activities when a tragedy of social injustice or death has happened in the Black community. I can never go back to that.
How can anyone hate me because I'm black? They can because prejudice and the belief that one's own race is superior to the Black race has been passed down since 1619. When Black people were kidnapped ... stolen from the continent of Africa, it was never intended for them (FOR US) to be anything other than slaves in America. Freedom was never intended. And so because the spirit of Black men could not be broken and our ancestors would not indefinitely submit to a life in bondage, their freedom was forced and with it came a powerful generational resentment that undergirds every institution in America. President Abraham Lincoln once wrote: “If I could save the Union without freeing any slave I would do it, and if I could save it by freeing all the slaves I would do it.” The disregard for and contempt for Black-ness was threaded into the fabric of Americanism. It is in the nuances of everything that the majority culture values and so it is a currency of oppression. I can never go back to not calling these nuances out.
So the next time someone asks me, "how can anyone hate you because you're black," I have the energy now. And I hope they're ready to commit to going from not just being non-racist but to being anti-racist ... Because more than being open to learning from me what it is like to be me and to be a part of the African diaspora (racism against Black people is a problem across the world not just America), I'm looking for advocates to fight as hard as I am. More to come ...
To do this, we need to unplug and fill our minds with more enriching stimulation so that what our thinking produces edifies us. The better your time spent and subsequent life experiences, the better your life.
- Read a book (Maybe even start a book club with your friends!)
- Talk to friends and family (If you can Facetime or Google Hangout, even better.)
- If you're going to be online, use the time you're spending there acquiring the knowledge of something new (Think, documentaries; Youtube tutorials for skillsets you've always wanted; learn a new language, etc.)
- Meditate (Put the phone down, turn the television off, surround yourself with quiet and just be in that moment.)
- Try new recipes (BonAppetit Magazine and NYTimes Cooking are my two favorite sources on IG of goooood eats that I can try.)
- Take a walk (There is nothing like being in nature. Period.)
What I'm saying is that what we put into our minds is what we produce in our daily lives. We spend an increasing amount of time as vicarious revelers (pun intended) — admiring the lives we see others living online. No. Let's use this time of social distancing to make our own lives better from the inside out.
"Be messy and complicated and afraid, and show up anyway." - Glennon Melton Doyle
