30 Days of Truth | Day 9

May 12, 2012

By Katrice

Someone you didn't want to let go but just drifted.

I was so fascinated with the poem about a reason, a season and a lifetime the first time I heard it. In theory, I loved it; I thought whoever conceived it was so sharp. Sidebar: I hadn't yet drifted from anyone close to me and so I had not experienced the uncomfortable reality of it all. 

I had a best friend growing up who was more like a sister to me than any one I believe my mother could have birthed. We were a few years apart in age and so I was like a big sister, but our friendship was well-rounded and we always had so much fun together. For years, we endured the distance of college -- first me going away and then her — without missing a beat. And then it seemed like overnight, our lives were going in different directions and for the first time, we weren't maintaining. I tried to hang on but realized I was actually kind of flailing and she was going on with her life. It was such a difficult conclusion to arrive at and the reason, season, lifetime thought never once came to the forefront of my mind because I guess I believed that my friendship with her defaulted to lifetime longevity. But, we drifted and the new normal was us chatting when we ran into each other in passing. It was so strange and took me quite a while to adjust to. But, I did. And now as mature women, we are friends again but in a way that you'd almost never know that we used to be best friends. And I'm finally okay with that.

I say all the time that when I moved from Ohio I was a caterpillar. I kind of believed there was more to me than what even I saw and knew, but I had no idea I'd evolve as much as I have. I have had many mentors in my life, but one in particular imparted some fundamentals that have driven me in my pursuit of happiness and giving. This individual was so instrumental in my formative years that I assumed, again, that it would be a lifetime relationship. But, when I moved and the frequent contact shifted, so did our relationship. I struggled to salvage it until one day the thought came to me that some relationships at the beginning of your life can be so impactful {because of what is deposited} that they can be confused as lifetime bonds. The reality is: It was a season of seeding, and now that the bearing of fruit has begun, the season and reason have been fulfilled. 

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