By Katrice
After, we will unwind with light eats, giveaways, complimentary chair massages, hand paraffin dipping relaxation, facial skin analysis and more courtesy of Quest Spa and Fitness Center.
I enjoy good conversation, especially exchanges that leave me feeling energized. It's one of the things I love most about My Vicarious Life ... I've met many of you here and the conversations we've had have made me better. I'm always thinking and talking about fulfillment and happiness. And not the something-wonderful-just-happened happiness ... but the kind of contentment that comes from a place of simply understanding ourselves as wonderfully made and powerfully capable. We all deserve it, so we should pursue it.
In the spirit of that pursuit, I hope you'll join me for a conversation about living our best lives during the first MVL Conversation. I have invited: Lanelle Henderson, Regional Development Director for Constant Contact, Georgia & Alabama; Diana Hayes-Moore, the owner and founder of Sweets 'n Dreams; and Kamille D. Whittaker, associate editor of Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine — women at different junctures of their quest to engage with us and the conversation will not be complete without you!
After, we will unwind with light eats, giveaways, complimentary chair massages, hand paraffin dipping relaxation, facial skin analysis and more courtesy of Quest Spa and Fitness Center.
RSVP here. I look forward to seeing you there!
Today, I realized that my blog crossed 250,000 page views last week. How did I miss that? It's so exciting, if you're a numbers person, and actually, kind of exciting even if you're not. I've been working hard since my second year blogging to get away from being moved by the numbers. So I don't hawk my analytics anymore. I needed to get back to doing this because I wanted to and doing it how I wanted to instead of trying to keep up with the crowd. That's a theme that has kind of been running through my life the past six years.
The lesson will come around as many times as it needs to until it is learned.
Don't get me wrong, crowds can be good. But, I realize that throngs of people don't always signify that a relationship, of any sort, exists. Some are merely onlookers. And truth be told, we can all be finicky. To that point, I learned a long time ago not to judge myself by the ebb and flow of the crowd.
I appreciate the page views as 250,000 opportunities to inspire though I have found myself spreading the MVL love across many platforms these days. I appreciate you — readers turned friends, peers turned mentors, strangers turned lifelines.
The truth is, if a crowd forms around the idea of us chasing our best lives ... pushing and pulling each other when we need to be pushed and pulled, I'm happy with it. If not, and it's just you and me {yes, you who's reading right now}, I'm happy with that too.
"The key is not to worry about being successful, but to instead work toward being significant - and the success will naturally follow."- Oprah
By Katrice
If you've had a few face-to-face conversations with me, you know that my grandfather is my hero. That distinction came during the second year I was a reporter for my hometown newspaper, The Sandusky Register, when I had the privilege of writing a special feature about his life in the community. Before I knew anything about his trials and triumphs, however, my foundation and respect for the benefits of hard work had already been set by my mother — his daughter. I'm not ashamed to say that few things came to us easily when I was a child. What we had was the direct result of my mother's earnest efforts and solid reputation; one literally fed the other.
When I started as a reporter, I was a recent college graduate with a degree in English and absolutely no journalistic prowess. Starting at the ground level is a theme in my life. I began my work with the Register as a stringer; In that couple-month period the assistant managing editor taught me how to be a reporter. And let me tell you, it wasn't a cake walk. The first couple weeks, I'd go to her complaining about my ledes being rewritten and my headlines changed, and her reply was always the same: "Do it better and it won't require my revising." I took that as a challenge. I'd write my story, put it in Ready to Edit, and proceed down to her desk to go through it line by line. I started to be fanatical about making sure what actually made it into the paper was what I provisioned. After three months, I was offered a full-time staff writer position. And even with that, our one-on-ones continued until I knew just about everything she knew about being a newspaper journalist.
When I left that post three and a half years later, it was because I believed it was a good time for me to start working toward a move up in the industry. I've always had my mind set on being an editor — though I didn't exactly know what it would take. My next move: a master's degree, followed by two years as executive director of a non-profit organization. What was happening in the midst of these pivotal stops, however, is what I contend most important in my trajectory.
From 1995-2004, I worked at the Radisson in various positions each summer. Upon graduating from Bowling Green State University with a master's degree in American Culture Studies, I interviewed for a city editor position with the Register and was passed over. I took a job as a front desk and membership clerk at the YMCA and later an adjunct instructor position with Heidelberg College. I continued to work at the Y. And I would be dishonest if I didn't admit here that I was a marginally disheartened that my progress toward a more senior post as a journalist hadn't been easier to attain. But, paying my bills became paramount.
I volunteered for every extra hour available at the gym ... filling in for people; volunteering to be there to open at 4 a.m.; and every single thing I could think of in between to become a standout — including offering the executive director unsolicited programming advice {LOL}. When the position with Big Brothers Big Sisters became available and I had been through two interviews for the executive director post, it was between me and another candidate. The departing ED had lunch with the head of the YMCA, and somehow my name came up. He began to talk about my conversations with him at the gym, not realizing that he was giving me the reference I needed to push me over. I worked at BBBS for two years before deciding to continue my quest toward editorship.
As you have gathered at this point, my road to Atlanta Tribune is not the typical route of a journalist. But, it is that of consistency, excellence, enterprise and diligence.
In my first interview with Tribune publisher Pat Lottier, I was afraid that my resume would seem a puzzle that she may not understand. But, what she told me proved that effort joined with earnest intent makes all the difference: What I see here is the summation of someone who isn't afraid to do what is necessary to achieve their expected end.
If you have your mind set on achieving, don't stop — even if you're the only one on the road you're traveling to your expected end.
If you've had a few face-to-face conversations with me, you know that my grandfather is my hero. That distinction came during the second year I was a reporter for my hometown newspaper, The Sandusky Register, when I had the privilege of writing a special feature about his life in the community. Before I knew anything about his trials and triumphs, however, my foundation and respect for the benefits of hard work had already been set by my mother — his daughter. I'm not ashamed to say that few things came to us easily when I was a child. What we had was the direct result of my mother's earnest efforts and solid reputation; one literally fed the other.
When I started as a reporter, I was a recent college graduate with a degree in English and absolutely no journalistic prowess. Starting at the ground level is a theme in my life. I began my work with the Register as a stringer; In that couple-month period the assistant managing editor taught me how to be a reporter. And let me tell you, it wasn't a cake walk. The first couple weeks, I'd go to her complaining about my ledes being rewritten and my headlines changed, and her reply was always the same: "Do it better and it won't require my revising." I took that as a challenge. I'd write my story, put it in Ready to Edit, and proceed down to her desk to go through it line by line. I started to be fanatical about making sure what actually made it into the paper was what I provisioned. After three months, I was offered a full-time staff writer position. And even with that, our one-on-ones continued until I knew just about everything she knew about being a newspaper journalist.
When I left that post three and a half years later, it was because I believed it was a good time for me to start working toward a move up in the industry. I've always had my mind set on being an editor — though I didn't exactly know what it would take. My next move: a master's degree, followed by two years as executive director of a non-profit organization. What was happening in the midst of these pivotal stops, however, is what I contend most important in my trajectory.
From 1995-2004, I worked at the Radisson in various positions each summer. Upon graduating from Bowling Green State University with a master's degree in American Culture Studies, I interviewed for a city editor position with the Register and was passed over. I took a job as a front desk and membership clerk at the YMCA and later an adjunct instructor position with Heidelberg College. I continued to work at the Y. And I would be dishonest if I didn't admit here that I was a marginally disheartened that my progress toward a more senior post as a journalist hadn't been easier to attain. But, paying my bills became paramount.
I volunteered for every extra hour available at the gym ... filling in for people; volunteering to be there to open at 4 a.m.; and every single thing I could think of in between to become a standout — including offering the executive director unsolicited programming advice {LOL}. When the position with Big Brothers Big Sisters became available and I had been through two interviews for the executive director post, it was between me and another candidate. The departing ED had lunch with the head of the YMCA, and somehow my name came up. He began to talk about my conversations with him at the gym, not realizing that he was giving me the reference I needed to push me over. I worked at BBBS for two years before deciding to continue my quest toward editorship.
As you have gathered at this point, my road to Atlanta Tribune is not the typical route of a journalist. But, it is that of consistency, excellence, enterprise and diligence.
In my first interview with Tribune publisher Pat Lottier, I was afraid that my resume would seem a puzzle that she may not understand. But, what she told me proved that effort joined with earnest intent makes all the difference: What I see here is the summation of someone who isn't afraid to do what is necessary to achieve their expected end.
If you have your mind set on achieving, don't stop — even if you're the only one on the road you're traveling to your expected end.
By Katrice
I had been seeing a few handbags from Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen's high-end line, The Row, but really hadn't had time to take a closer look at them until this weekend. One word came to mind after seeing the first bag up close: Luxe. I wanted three right off the bat. What do you think of the selection?
Metal Framed Lizard Clutch | $5,800
Day Luxe Bag | $5,400
Mini Twin Bag | $2,750
Leather and Suede Doctor Bag | $4,750
Python Tall Day Tote | $19,000
Editor's Note: When we decided to invite Rep. Stacey Abrams to be a guest contributor in the March issue of Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine, we had just been inspired by Phylicia Rashad's letter to her 21-year-old self. Our staff of young executive women greatly values mentoring, direct and indirect, and we take every opportunity to soak up words of wisdom from those who have gone before us up the ranks of corporate America. What we gained in her letter was greater than we could have ever anticipated. So great that I couldn't resist sharing her words here. - Katrice
via Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine | March issue
By Katrice
Soooo ... I didn't get the iPhone 4S. I settled for the 4 and I'm okay with that. But I was talking to a friend who also recently purchased an iPhone, and she did get the 4S with Siri. We're constantly comparing notes about how little conveniences make all the difference in helping us to keep our busy lives in order. And that got me to thinking about what Siri-like apps may be out there.
Voila! Enter: Vlingo.
When I read that Vlingo had almost all of Siri’s functionality, including booking restaurants, I was sold on trying it. I can text, map out a route, search for information, update my social media status and make a phone call with a simple voice command. All I have to do is hold down the Home button on my phone and speak whatever I'm trying to do. Perfect!
The only option Vlingo is missing is the reminder feature. But, I expect that will be offered in an update very shortly. With all I'll be able to do with this free app, I'm certainly not complaining.
Soooo ... I didn't get the iPhone 4S. I settled for the 4 and I'm okay with that. But I was talking to a friend who also recently purchased an iPhone, and she did get the 4S with Siri. We're constantly comparing notes about how little conveniences make all the difference in helping us to keep our busy lives in order. And that got me to thinking about what Siri-like apps may be out there.
Voila! Enter: Vlingo.
When I read that Vlingo had almost all of Siri’s functionality, including booking restaurants, I was sold on trying it. I can text, map out a route, search for information, update my social media status and make a phone call with a simple voice command. All I have to do is hold down the Home button on my phone and speak whatever I'm trying to do. Perfect!
The only option Vlingo is missing is the reminder feature. But, I expect that will be offered in an update very shortly. With all I'll be able to do with this free app, I'm certainly not complaining.
By Katrice
When I made an unsolicited visit to Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine in June of 2006, I came wearing the best interview attire I had available to me: a crisp white button-down ruffle blouse, black pencil skirt and black heels. No one was expecting me, as the magazine wasn't hiring for any editorial positions. But I was invited in for a brief meeting with the current editor. It was a conversation that I earnestly believe only took place because I arrived having carefully considered the first impression I wanted to make.
I was offered the opportunity to interview on the spot for an apprenticeship in the editorial department. {My goal was to land an unpaid editorial assistantship for at least 20 hours a week to learn the magazine editorial process and work my way up. My rationale, which I shared with the editor: I could work another job in my free time to cover my bills.} A perfect scenario, I thought ... because I didn't have any in-house magazine experience but was no stranger to sacrifice. Long story short — I didn't get the apprenticeship; It went to a deserving Clark Atlanta University student who was studying journalism. When I found out, I cried to my older brother because I thought I wasn't good enough to even get the lowest position though in the back of my mind I respected that a student needed scholarship money more than I needed the opportunity at that point.
The next day, I made an appointment with a temp agency in Union City, Ga., for later that week and went to meet the representative in the very same manner. I wore a different blouse and skirt ensemble with heels, and I was placed in an office within days. For two months, I worked two separate temporary posts through that agency until one day receiving a voicemail message from Atlanta Tribune about an opening on the editorial staff. Not only had the editor remembered me, she was offering me an interview for a full-time paid position. It wasn't what I wore, but I'm confident that factoring in what I should wear made a difference. ... As you can surmise, I got the job that lead to this point in my career. And though I completely credit God with the favor that placed me on that editor's mind, I did my very best to give Him something to bless. Being prepared for opportunity is key.
If you talk to any Atlanta Tribune intern who has worked with us over the last six years, they will tell you that our editorial staff is scrupulous about their presentation of themselves — from how they dress to how they speak. We have a business casual standard for day-to-day operations, but if we expect visitors in our office for meetings or have a conference, we wear business attire. Never mind whether the meeting will involve us or if we'll be working the background of an event.
We {society on the whole} are becoming increasingly comfortable with doing just enough. And somehow failing to realize doing "just enough" will earn you the very same. I hear people say all the time that they don't want to be judged by their appearance, and in theory — I can understand that sentiment to some extent. But, when you want to be a cut above, every single nuance of your presentation needs to be a cut above.
People often ask me how I got to where I am with the magazine and I generally get right to the meat of the story. But, I wanted to take just a moment to share my beginning. I didn't have exactly what I wanted to wear when I drove up to the magazine's office. But, I put together the best of what I did have understanding what all would be considered if I was to be taken seriously, and I still do the same today. Consider how my story may have turned out had I dropped by the office in skinny jeans and a T-shirt to introduce myself and leave my resume. ...
If you ask me, first impressions are everything.
When I made an unsolicited visit to Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine in June of 2006, I came wearing the best interview attire I had available to me: a crisp white button-down ruffle blouse, black pencil skirt and black heels. No one was expecting me, as the magazine wasn't hiring for any editorial positions. But I was invited in for a brief meeting with the current editor. It was a conversation that I earnestly believe only took place because I arrived having carefully considered the first impression I wanted to make.
I was offered the opportunity to interview on the spot for an apprenticeship in the editorial department. {My goal was to land an unpaid editorial assistantship for at least 20 hours a week to learn the magazine editorial process and work my way up. My rationale, which I shared with the editor: I could work another job in my free time to cover my bills.} A perfect scenario, I thought ... because I didn't have any in-house magazine experience but was no stranger to sacrifice. Long story short — I didn't get the apprenticeship; It went to a deserving Clark Atlanta University student who was studying journalism. When I found out, I cried to my older brother because I thought I wasn't good enough to even get the lowest position though in the back of my mind I respected that a student needed scholarship money more than I needed the opportunity at that point.
The next day, I made an appointment with a temp agency in Union City, Ga., for later that week and went to meet the representative in the very same manner. I wore a different blouse and skirt ensemble with heels, and I was placed in an office within days. For two months, I worked two separate temporary posts through that agency until one day receiving a voicemail message from Atlanta Tribune about an opening on the editorial staff. Not only had the editor remembered me, she was offering me an interview for a full-time paid position. It wasn't what I wore, but I'm confident that factoring in what I should wear made a difference. ... As you can surmise, I got the job that lead to this point in my career. And though I completely credit God with the favor that placed me on that editor's mind, I did my very best to give Him something to bless. Being prepared for opportunity is key.
If you talk to any Atlanta Tribune intern who has worked with us over the last six years, they will tell you that our editorial staff is scrupulous about their presentation of themselves — from how they dress to how they speak. We have a business casual standard for day-to-day operations, but if we expect visitors in our office for meetings or have a conference, we wear business attire. Never mind whether the meeting will involve us or if we'll be working the background of an event.
We {society on the whole} are becoming increasingly comfortable with doing just enough. And somehow failing to realize doing "just enough" will earn you the very same. I hear people say all the time that they don't want to be judged by their appearance, and in theory — I can understand that sentiment to some extent. But, when you want to be a cut above, every single nuance of your presentation needs to be a cut above.
People often ask me how I got to where I am with the magazine and I generally get right to the meat of the story. But, I wanted to take just a moment to share my beginning. I didn't have exactly what I wanted to wear when I drove up to the magazine's office. But, I put together the best of what I did have understanding what all would be considered if I was to be taken seriously, and I still do the same today. Consider how my story may have turned out had I dropped by the office in skinny jeans and a T-shirt to introduce myself and leave my resume. ...
If you ask me, first impressions are everything.
By Katrice L.
Thank you to Dea Winn and Pretty Girls Rock Dresses for the "Conversations With Pretty" feature on PGRDresses.com this weekend.
I met Dea at Swapnista, the chic alternative to shopping for a new wardrobe that PGR Dresses co-sponsors, in October and have been getting to know her better at fashion and beauty gatherings all over town — including the recent MVL Social. You can never have too many cheerleaders in your corner, and if you know Dea — you know that's exactly what she is.
Check out my conversation with the "Pretty Girl" herself about the blog name My Vicarious Life, writing and style here.
Thank you to Dea Winn and Pretty Girls Rock Dresses for the "Conversations With Pretty" feature on PGRDresses.com this weekend.
I met Dea at Swapnista, the chic alternative to shopping for a new wardrobe that PGR Dresses co-sponsors, in October and have been getting to know her better at fashion and beauty gatherings all over town — including the recent MVL Social. You can never have too many cheerleaders in your corner, and if you know Dea — you know that's exactly what she is.
Check out my conversation with the "Pretty Girl" herself about the blog name My Vicarious Life, writing and style here.
By Katrice
When I first met Chavaz Knowles by phone, we had a brief exchange about the pronunciation of my name. He was asking for Ka-trice and I was answering, "this is Kay-triss." After a moment, we came to conclusion that I was who he was looking for and began an easy conversation as if we'd known each other for years. Chavaz, the CEO of ADvanceYour Future {a consulting company for today’s discerning business professional}, had discovered me via MVL on Google. That alone was enough to make my day. But, he was actually calling to request an interview for ADvanceYour Future's February newsletter.
We chatted about everything from my career as editor with Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine, to my choice in movies, MVL and even my thoughts on natural hair. I'm excited to share the feature here.
Thank you Chavaz and ADvanceYour Future!
We chatted about everything from my career as editor with Atlanta Tribune: The Magazine, to my choice in movies, MVL and even my thoughts on natural hair. I'm excited to share the feature here.
Thank you Chavaz and ADvanceYour Future!
By Katrice
I am excited to share my feature on ForHarriet.com as a part of it's Black Girls Blogging series.
I am excited to share my feature on ForHarriet.com as a part of it's Black Girls Blogging series.
Black Girls Blogging is a new feature on For Harriet that explores the ways Black women share their voices and build community online in a social media sphere that provides them opportunities to define who they are and what they hope to become.
Thank you, For Harriet!
Thank you, For Harriet!
ForHarriet.com is a blog community for Black women 25-65 run by its publisher and editor-in-chief, Kimberly N. Foster. In an effort to provide new, diverse perspectives on what it means to be a Black women in the 21st century, our content is written primarily by women who do not consider themselves to be writers or academics. We encourage our readers to share their opinions and engage in honest, open dialogue about the issues that affect our lives. All opinions are welcome except those which promote hate, intolerance, or oppression. Our mission is to inspire, educate, and entertain our readers.
By Katrice
While I did not know Whitney Houston personally, I feel as though I have suffered a great loss in her death. She lived and triumphed ... and struggled in the public eye and beneath the immense pressure of judging masses. Today, I am compelled to pay a small tribute to her because she shared with us a gift that not only inspired but changed lives. And though, with her passing, the flowers we offer in her memory will be for naught, I hope — as we always do in these times — that her death will teach us to live each day with a stirring fervor and to give the very best of ourselves as if our very lives depend upon it.
"When I dare to be powerful — to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid."
- Audre Lorde
While I did not know Whitney Houston personally, I feel as though I have suffered a great loss in her death. She lived and triumphed ... and struggled in the public eye and beneath the immense pressure of judging masses. Today, I am compelled to pay a small tribute to her because she shared with us a gift that not only inspired but changed lives. And though, with her passing, the flowers we offer in her memory will be for naught, I hope — as we always do in these times — that her death will teach us to live each day with a stirring fervor and to give the very best of ourselves as if our very lives depend upon it.
"When I dare to be powerful — to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid."
- Audre Lorde
By Katrice
I've been so busy that I haven't had time to wish my blog a Happy 2nd Birthday!!
But, not too busy to plan a special event to commemorate the occasion. I hope that you will join me on Feb. 23rd at 6:30 p.m. for The MVL Social. Come out for a couple hours to the free soiree, sponsored by Atlanta Tribune, Shea Moisture, Beautiful Textures, Color Me Beautiful and Avon, and enjoy light fare, music, mingling and even a few surprises at the beautiful LOFT at Castleberry Hill. I'm looking for you {and your guests} to be there! Click the banner to RSVP and tell a friend.
By Katrice
Faux Fur Vest | Express
Cowl Neck Top | Kohl's
Stretch Chinos | Mossimo for Target
Bag | Francesca's Collections
Bracelets | Goody Double Wear Elastic Bands
By Katrice
It's that time again. The moment when we feel inspired by the newness of year and want to mark it by declaring some type of commitment to changing things within and around us. It's normal; I'd wager to say, we've all done it. Over the past few years though, I've moved away from start-of-the-year resolutions and begun to cultivate an atmosphere that inspires me to be my best self year-round.
Something inspires me each day. Music or a conversation. Sometimes, it's giving, or a lesson or observation. It could virtually be anything.
As I prepared for vacation at the end of 2011, I decided that to redo the decor in my office as I haven't really changed it much over the past few years. I like to feel inspired the moment I enter a work space. So, my office is, in large part, full of books and magazines that I love. Mainly magazines. But, my most cherished office fixtures are the photos strewn throughout.
{My grandmother, as a young woman in the background, and my mom}
It's that time again. The moment when we feel inspired by the newness of year and want to mark it by declaring some type of commitment to changing things within and around us. It's normal; I'd wager to say, we've all done it. Over the past few years though, I've moved away from start-of-the-year resolutions and begun to cultivate an atmosphere that inspires me to be my best self year-round.
Something inspires me each day. Music or a conversation. Sometimes, it's giving, or a lesson or observation. It could virtually be anything.
As I prepared for vacation at the end of 2011, I decided that to redo the decor in my office as I haven't really changed it much over the past few years. I like to feel inspired the moment I enter a work space. So, my office is, in large part, full of books and magazines that I love. Mainly magazines. But, my most cherished office fixtures are the photos strewn throughout.
These images remind me to ever be grateful and focused ... and zealous in my pursuits. And more than anything else, to simply take time to not only dream but to remember.
What inspires you?
By Katrice
{Source}
This photo will be going on my inspiration board. I am committed to giving my hair a break over the next six months with twists, pin ups and head coverings, and Ms. Ambrose's turban {here} is just the inspiration I needed.




























